Friday, October 22, 2010

Best Sex Bloggers For 2010

In a world overrun with hate, political correctness and gamesmanship, I want to congratulate the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2010 for presenting a sex-positive alternative to the mainstream madness.

This year’s selections, announced by Between My Sheets represent a virtual cornucopia of sex and sexuality – from trans-gender and BDSM, to first-rate sex education for every age.

I have provided a link to the full list:

Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2010
Announced by Between My Sheets

“First, some housekeeping:

This year, we had over 200 nominations through comments, email, and Twitter! Everyone who was nominated should be proud!

A lower score than you had last year doesn’t mean that you’re a worse blogger than last year. It’s all relative compared to the other bloggers nominated.

This year, a blog was counted as a single number, regardless of the number of writers. If you have multiple blogs, you were listed with the highest-rating blog.

Between My Sheets”


I wanted to select several from this list that I read routinely and love, and one blogger who SHOULD have been named but wasn’t. So, here’s my list from their list (isn’t it cool to be totally subjective?)

[Note: I am persenting my personal faves in the descending order that they appear on the list. Each bio that follows is the description that each has posted on their blog.]

My first selection is the wonderful Jiz Lee, who was ranked No. 57 on the list.

About Me

“With an ejaculation scene that knocked the concept of the facial cumshot on its ass, Jiz Lee unloaded into the revolutionary world of queer porn cinema. As one of the adult industry’s few GenderQueer Pornstars, Jiz has appeared in the award-winning films of queer and feminist directors from both independent and LA mainstream such as Shine Louise Houston and Belladonna.

Jiz’s career started in 2006 with Shine Louise Houston’s The Crash Pad (Pink & White Productions) which was awarded the Feminist Porn Awards’ Best Dyke Sex Scene 2006. Jiz has appeared in approximately 25 released films and a handful of political/art-minded websites. Jiz stared in Houston’s 2009 film CHAMPION, awarded 2009 Movie of the Year and nominated “Best Video Feature” in the 2010 AVN Awards. Other films include queer-meets-mainstream hit Belladonna’s Strapped Dykes, and numerous titles by Indie Porn Pioneer Madison Young and Queer Alt Princess Courtney Trouble, and Carlos Batts with muse April Flores. Lee has appeared under various pseudonyms including “Gauge”, “Kaltes Klaris Wasser (Vasa)”, and “Beau Flex”, and has appeared in Here!TV’s Lesbian Sex and Sexuality Documentary Porn Today: Pushing the Limits, as well as’s series Behind Kink: Uncovering Porn for Pussies, and can be found online as a prolific character in Pink & White Production’s highly acclaimed online porn saga

Upcoming projects include Joanna Angel’s upcoming feature Doppleganger, Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Female Orgasm and Rough Sex 3: Adrianna Nicole’s Dangerous Mind, Dr. Carol Queen’s GUSH: The Official Guide to the G-Spot, Anna Devia’s Alpha Femmes, and Jiz will be traveling to Berlin in August to perform in MOMMY’S COMMING, a new film by Cheryl Dunye.

In 2009, Jiz was one of 100 Top Hot Butches. Jiz is one of Violet Blue’s Top Ten Sexy Geeks 2010, and is one of Fleshbot’s 2010 Top Ten Crushable Objects.

The 2010 Feminist Porn Awards presented Jiz the “Boundary Breaker” award. In 2010, Jiz was also nominated for the AVN Awards Best New Web Star and walked the red carpet packing an 8 1/2″ cock. This year, Jiz launched a philanthropic porn projected called “Karma Pervs” which raises money for rotating non-profit organizations such as STOP AIDS Project, the Center for Sex & Culture, and the St. James Infirmary (a health clinic run by and for sex workers).

Jiz is interviewed in Morty Diamond’s Gendered Hearts anthology, and is a contributor of Aorta Magazine (formerly “ART XX”), Good Vibrations Magazine, Carnal Nation, and other publications as well as blogging on The 2011 NYC SexBloggers Calendar will feature Jiz and is a benefit for Woodhull Freedom Foundation. Jiz has also modeled for New Lesbian Sex Book 3rd Edition with photos by Shilo McCabe, and is an illustrated character in Michelle Tea and Laurenn McCubben’s RENT GIRL. Jiz is also a Pornsaint.

Preferred pronouns include “They/Them” (because they is gender-fuck and grammar-fuck, too!) or no pronoun at all.”

Follow Jiz on Twitter.


My next selection is the amazing Violet Blue, who was ranked No. 83 on the list.

About Me

“Violet Blue is a Forbes Web Celeb, SF Appeal contributor, a high-profile tech personality and one of Wired's Faces of Innovation. She is regarded as the foremost expert in the field of sex and technology, a sex-positive pundit in mainstream media (MacLife,, The Oprah Winfrey Show, others) and is regularly interviewed, quoted and featured prominently by major media outlets (from ABC News to the Wall Street Journal). A published feature writer and columnist since 1998, Violet also has many award-winning, best selling books; her books are featured on Oprah's website. She was the notorious sex columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle. She headlines at conferences ranging from ETech, LeWeb and SXSW: Interactive, to Google Tech Talks at Google, Inc. The London Times named Blue one of the 40 bloggers who really count (2010). Violet Blue is in no way associated with the unauthorized use of her name (or likeness) and registered trademark in pornographic films.”

Follow Violet Blue on Twitter.


My next selection is the incredible Mistress Matisse, who was ranked No. 87 on the list.

About Me


My Name is Mistress Matisse...

I am a very beautiful, experienced dominatrix with a private, fully-equipped dungeon in Seattle, Washington.

Her Journal contains “personal musings, rants and life-trivia...”

She also writes Control Tower, a column in Seattle's Alt-Weekly Paper, The Stranger.

Follow the Mistress on Twitter.


My next personal selection from the list is the always audacious and outrageous Audacia Ray, who was ranked No. 88.

She was also named Village Voice's Best Sex Blogger for 2010! Not stopping there, her contribution to The Red Umbrella Diaries was also selected as a “Best Of” for 2010!

As a result of her triple selection, I have included more about this unique talent.

The Village Voice Best of Award
Best Sex Blogger — 2010
Audacia Ray

Sinclair Sexsmith's Sugarbutch Chronicles may wax rhapsodic on the joys of riding crops, and the Debauched Domestic Diva may continue her witty transformation from repressed Stepford Wife into complete exhibitionist, but no New Yorker scribbles about sex better than Audacia Ray, the brains and beauty behind Waking Vixen. The adjunct professor of sexuality at Rutgers University and program officer of the International Women's Health Coalition lends her wise, engaging voice to porn-star literary events, interviews with children of sex workers, NSFW short films, and more. Her topics are thoughtful and often lewd, but her insight makes them truly provocative.


About Me

“I was selected as the Best Sex Blogger of 2010 for this here blog, which I’ve been writing since 2004. Says The Voice, “no New Yorker scribbles about sex better than Audacia Ray, the brains and beauty behind Waking Vixen.” They also say that my writing is “thoughtful and often lewd” – the latter is not so much true, and may cause me to get a solid number of emails from those who miss the good ole days of me blogging the minute details of my sex life. I don’t so much miss the play-by-play writing, but I do miss writing here regularly, and I’m hoping to finish some posts I’ve got percolating in my drafts folder soon soon. Over the last few years, I’ve grown from being huddled in my room writing about things to being out in the world trying to make and do things better. Which is more useful than navel-gazing, but I do miss the writing.

Oh, and my second Best Of mention! The Red Umbrella Diaries was noted as the Best Way to Meet Sex Workers (For Free). Creepy? Yeah. But a nice bit of recognition nonetheless. My favorite line of the write-up, as the writer tries to puzzle out what the hell this thing is exactly: “It’s not exactly a turn-on… but it’s certainly captivating.” It’s always amusing-slash-frustrating to me when the Red Umbrella Diaries gets described as an erotica event, but I also know that it’s hard for many people to grapple with the idea of sex and money, and especially sexual experiences that might not be all that sexy.

Thanks for the support and continued interest in my work over the years. It means a great deal to me to have a community of people rooting for me, challenging me, and giving me stuff to think about.”


Audacia Ray is a media maker and advocate who is based in New York City. Audacia is the Program Officer for Online Communications and Campaigns at the International Women’s Health Coalition. She consults on information and communications technologies for the Global Network of Sex Work Projects. As a co-founder of advocacy organization Sex Work Awareness, Audacia leads annual media training workshops and is providing technical support for a research study investigating the use of content filters on public library and college computers with Internet access. Audacia also hosts a monthly storytelling series, The Red Umbrella Diaries, where people who have worked in the sex trade gather to share stories and document their experiences.

Audacia is the author of Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing In on Internet Sexploration and has written and edited a variety of blogs about sexuality and culture, including her personal blog Waking Vixen, which launched in 2004. Audacia is a former sex worker who was an executive editor at the Utne Reader award-winning $pread magazine for three years. She has shot and edited a variety of videos and video podcasts, including Naked City TV, a fifteen episode documentary video show that she produced for the Village Voice in 2008. Audacia developed a syllabus and taught as an adjunct professor of Human Sexuality at Rutgers University for three semesters. Audacia has a BA from Eugene Lang College at the New School and a MA from Columbia University.


Clamor Magazine has called Audacia a “Jill of all media trades,” and her work has been covered by the New York Times, Oprah Magazine, Wired, Bitch, National Public Radio, Playboy Radio, Geraldo at Large, Sex TV, and many others.

Audacia dipped her toes into the vast world of sexuality in 2001 when she started working as a researcher at the then-nascent Museum of Sex during her senior year at the New School’s Eugene Lang College, where she obtained a BA in Cultural Studies in 2002. At MoSex, she got paid to sift through collections of dirty pictures in New York City’s museums and public libraries, visit eclectic and enthusiastic sexual ephemera collectors and started cataloging one of the world’s largest porn collections. After leaving MoSex in 2003, she shed the academic veneer of sexuality research and dove headlong into doing public relations, model and production management for a Manhattan-based porn company. She also became a volunteer community educator for the Gay Men’s Health Crisis, the oldest AIDS service organization in the United States, and received training in risk reduction practices at the Harm Reduction Training Institute. She also began to support herself financially by doing sex work. Audacia began her MA in American Studies at Columbia University in 2004 and studied at the Summer Institute on Sexuality, Culture and Society at the Universiteit van Amsterdam in the summer of 2005.

In early 2005 Audacia began to work with $pread magazine, and her gig writing news blurbs for the magazine developed into her position as News & Shorts Editor and then Executive Editor. During her tenure, which ended in January 2008, the magazine won the Utne Independent Press Award for “Best New Title” in 2005 and was named “Best Sex Worker Support System” in the 2006 Village Voice Best Of issue. To celebrate $pread’s first birthday, Audacia curated a now annual art show, Sex Worker Visions which opened with great fanfare at the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Community Center in New York in March 2006 and ran through May 2006. She takes pride in assisting sex workers in developing their voice and their writing skills, and along with her fellow executive editor developed the workshop “Journalism for Sex Workers,” which they taught at the Re-visioning Prostitution Policy conference in Las Vegas in July 2006. Her sex worker advocacy has more recently taken shape in the form of the organization Sex Work Awareness, which she co-founded with three other women who are sex workers and allies.

In the summer of 2006 Audacia wrote, directed and produced her first feature adult film, “The Bi Apple,” a bisexual romp that takes place in New York City. The film was released by Adam & Eve Pictures in February 2007 and went on to win the Feminist Porn Award for Hottest Bi Sex Scene in June 2007 and be nominated for the GayVN award for Best Bisexual Release. She spent the fall of 2006 writing her first book, Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration, about female sexuality and the internet, published by Seal Press in June 2007. Audacia was also a contributor to the Gawker media owned porn blog Fleshbot from August 2006 to August 2007.

After producing The Bi Apple and getting a taste for film, Dacia has gone on to produce two video podcast series. She launched Live Girl Review, which she edited and hosted, in November 2007. In 2008 Audacia spent several months editing the Village Voice’s sexuality blog Naked City, for which she also produced nineteen episodes of a weekly documentary video show, Naked City TV. Along with her co-filmmaker Rob Daly, Dacia created a comedic short film, Dacia’s Love Machine, about trying to get rid of a sex machine via Craigslist. The film premiered at the Berlin Porn Film Festival in October 2008 and is available for download.

Follow Audacia on Twitter.


I am thrilled that the next blogger made the list. The witty and wondrous Dr. Petra Boynton was ranked No. 95, and is the last of my personal picks from the list. She is a hard-working sex educator and lecturer from the U.K.

About me

“I am a lecturer in International Health Services Research at a London university where I teach doctors, nurses and other health professionals at postgraduate level.

Please note that the views expressed on this site and blog are not necessarily those of my university.

I regularly present at conferences in the UK and internationally, and complete research and training within the area of sex and relationships health.

I have a BA in Social Psychology (Sussex University), and a PhD is in Applied Human Psychology (Aston University). My PhD focused on the effects of sexually explicit material.

I have lectured at a number of UK universities, specialising in evidence based healthcare, and understanding research methodologies (both qualitative and quantitative).

My research has covered topics within the area of sexual health, including the effects of pornography, women involved in street prostitution, policy and practice in sex education, evaluating advice giving in the media, sexual functioning, and modernising sexual health services.”

Follow Dr. Petra on Twitter.


It is now time for me to acknowledge an incredible sex blogger who SHOULD have been included: the U.K. sex education BISH Training. BISH strives to provide teens and young adults with accurate, accessible information in a compelling, age-appropriate, entertaining and hip way. Long may he blog!

About Me

“Just thought I’d let you know that I’m not an amateur who’s making all this stuff up.

I’m not an amateur who’s making all this stuff up.

I’ve been a youth worker for 15 years, I’ve been doing young people’s sexual health projects and advice work for nearly 10 years and I’ve been learning the mouth organ for about 3 weeks. I’m terrible at the mouth organ.

If you want to learn more about the kind of stuff I do you can always visit my ‘professional’ website.

If you and your mates can club together you can even pay me to come and do a training course in your house, or in the park. I also do weddings, birthday parties, christenings and bah mitzvahs.


Follow BISH on Twitter.

— The Curator

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